If Your Wife Does not Win First Place, You Lose!!!
In my short life, I have had the opportunity of talking, and listening to quite a number of wives and girlfriends whom are either my friends or colleagues. One common complain that they have on their partners is knowing that they come in second in their partner's life. Most husbands comes back from work and either immediately turn on the box to see if their favorite show is on, or sits in front of the internet and starts doing "stuff", then asks "What are we having tonight?". Some even prefer to spend time with the mates to down a few glasses at the drinking hole down the road.
Husbands/Boyfriends… take note. Your partner's affection towards you is diminished when you begin to prefer other activities or people over her. You may not be aware that your misplaced priorities is hurting her and at the same time destroying your relationship with your partner. For a marriage to last the test of time, your partner needs to know that she has a very special place in your heart. You may have told her that she STILL has a special place in your heart, but what she really wants to be assured of is that she will always and will continuously have a special place in your heart.
Many husbands are shocked to find out that their wives are leaving them for no reason at all. After 10, 20, even 30 years of marriage, if your partner cannot take it anymore, they can just pack up their bags and leave you all alone. You feel you have provided everything that your partner could have needed and wanted – the nice house in a great neighbourhood, the SUV that cost you a bomb, more than enough $$ to bring up the children. And yet, she still left you. WHY??? And how can you reverse this and Win Back Your Love?
A woman needs much more than things.
You may be a successful in your career and make huge sums of money, and are respected in your area of specialty, commanding respect from your employees and making them satisfied with respect and awareness of their needs. And yet when you reach home, you cannot even apply the same principles to your life partner. Your most important accomplishments are over once office closes off.
Unconsciously, you can communicate nonverbally to your wife that other people or activities are more important to you than your own partner. This will ultimately cause marital unhappiness and suffering as most of your time and efforts are directed towards some other interest, with only cold leftovers for her. Your partner can feel less important just by comparing the amount of time you spend on your interest as opposed to the time you spend with her.
As woman are emotional creatures, as opposed to man who are logical creatures, woman notices the excitement in your eyes and the changes in personalities when you talk about meeting some colleagues, that fishing trip that you are going to this coming weekend, or even the soccer match that you will be going to with your mates. Not being able to sense the same excitement from you when you are with her or discussing about the next holiday plan together, she will have a sense of failure in her as she is not attractive and does not excite you as much as your activities or friends do. This can have a devastating effect to a woman's sense of personal worth.
Therefore, try to understand that if your wife always comes second in your life, then you will not only lose her, but also the happiness that comes with her in the future. If your wife does not win first place in your heart and mind, you lose!!! Understanding this will pave your way to Winning Back Your Love